Losing Family Members/Friends

arguably the worst emotional pain imaginable.

i lost my father to a myocardial infarction owing to undiagnosed coronary artery disease aged 12. he was 43 and collapsed at work, having previously been absolutely fine.

anyone else lost someone close?
how did you and others around you cope?

hmm. even if you don't meet someone who is a family member, they're part of your genetics and losing them's still hard.


losing someone who's part of your daily life is harder because you have to cope with the physical loss of them in your routine.

My Granda died a few years back, that wasn't a nice time, lots of people were depressed and kept talknig about him. To a point where I asked my mum why I never saw him anymore.

It was bad considering I went to his funeral
Between the ages of 4 and 8 I lost my remaining great grandparents.

Last weekend we lost 9 puppies.
We managed to save one.
She lived for 3 days.
I think the amount of gried my entire family felt was the same amount as losing a family member, or a friend.

We are all still pretty much devastated.

les amoureux. wrote:Last weekend we lost 9 puppies.
We managed to save one.
She lived for 3 days.
I think the amount of gried my entire family felt was the same amount as losing a family member, or a friend.

We are all still pretty much devastated.

i think pets count as a family member.
my cat's been there since i was 4, he's just THERE.
minmin counts too just by being included and part of the family day to day routine.

i am so scared for when they die that i'll be a mess. i can't imagine life without them.
so yes, i think pets come under family members and friends, even if they're not yours, for example, my cousin's labrador, gemma. we all cried when she died, and i never got on that well with her, but she was part of the extended family.

Though he wasn't technically family, he was going to marry my mum and he was the best thing I ever had to call a father. That was my mum's boyfriend. He was killed in a motorcycle accident when I was nine years old. He used to take me to the park and help me catch bugs all through the summer for the year that we did have the honour of knowing him. I didn't understand it a whole hell of a lot, but I did cry a lot when I heard that I'd never see him again. I remember writing him a letter and I could barely see to write it.

I lost my grandmother when I was seventeen years old. She always talked about not being able to wait to see me graduate high school in cap and gown since no other female had in the family since her, but she missed it by three months. She died on my brother's birthday, of pneumonia, I think. I'm not positive what the exact cause of death was, I just know that she was very sick for most of my senior year. That was arguably the worst pain I ever felt in my life. I was so angry at first, I didn't know how to cope with it since I'd never been that close to death before since that guy. None of us took it very well but I took it the worst, I think. Every one else went about day to day life down in the town where she was buried, for the week that we were there for her funeral. I locked myself in the guest room that I was using and wouldn't come out for anything. I did everything I could to keep my mind off it, but most of the time I laid in bed and cried. I was very close to her, you see. Even though I didn't live with her, she lived right next door to us and I saw her just about daily. When I needed someone, she was there. No matter what. Every morning before school, I used to have a cup of coffee with her and spend time with her. None of her other grandchildren ever did that. I didn't cope well the rest of the school year. I had no one to have coffee with in the mornings anymore. I went on about my school work and graduated with a 3.8 GPA. I just wish she could've been there to watch me get my diploma. It's been 3.5 years now. I still cry.

I also lost a great-grandmother, who may as well have been a grandmother to me because she was effectively my mother's mum. My mother lost her mum when she was seven and shortly after, her dad abandoned her and her grandmother took care of her and the siblings. She used to send cards and money to me and other family. I'd only seen her a few times in my life, but I loved her to death, she was so sweet and nice. I'd talk to her on the phone sometimes. She lived in Kentucky, so that's why I never got to see her much. She died on April fourth of this year. I didn't take it AS hard as I did my grandmother, but I took it pretty hard nonetheless. My mum took it the worst because that was basically her mother.

It's always shocking when someone you know dies, but it's worse when you were close.

I lost my uncle a few months ago, but hadn't seen him in years, which is why I didn't feel bad for not crying...

Earlier I found out one of my friends committed suicide recently, and I had quite a few memories with him, the one that always sticks out is him at my party and wreaking havoc, but having so much fun...
I miss him so much. We were in the same school, which is even harder for his classmates and best friends...

My father's father died when I was, like, ten? Didn't really affect me much, we knew it was coming and all. He only spoke Chinese, and I can't, so. He had lung cancer, he'd been smoking since the age of 16, so I guess he sort of deserved it?

The funeral was terrible. Everyone was just bawling, and I was getting quite scared. My mother kind of hugged me to her side, which never happens. So that scared me even more and I cried too.

I had a nightmare about my dead grandfather a couple of weeks later. But that was it.

My great-grandad. He was sick for years after he had a fall and he had some sort of liver cancer. We used to go to the hospital every day. I was pretty close to him, because we have a really small family.

Yeah I miss him, I wished I could have spent time with him. Because he was my only male grandparent that I've known.

My grandads just been taken into hospital
For many reasons there's a high chance he wont come out again

I'm very frightened

my great grandmother's been pretty ill with flu recently, and at one point, nobody was sure if she'd make it- aged 95 and being ill, people do worry like that.
i would worry most about my mum because of previous loss but the truth is that i don't know how much i'd miss her because... idk. i'd feel better knowing she was in a better place, i know that.
it's a complicated feeling, i guess.

I lost my grandmother two years ago around this time of year. And last year, my grandfather. Its sort of sweet in a morbid way. He couldn't live without her so he just...stopped. But they were both extraordinary. My grandfather was probably most learned person in the country. He knew everything. He really knew everything.

Two days ago, I almost lost my brother. God's grace and good will saved him. Car accident. He was only injured but he had to watch his friend die. He's not home yet but its terrible and scary and my mother cried insanely.

another friend of mine passed away today.

article.

tomorrow will be a hard day.

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My mom died almost a year ago and I'm really still not over it and I don't think I will be, ever. I'm kind of just on my own with it. My sister got into drugs and my dad ignores me and shoves money at me to get me to leave him alone...and he's getting remarried already. He didn't wait at all to start dating. The day after my mom died he left his email open on my computer and he'd already signed up for dating websites. I joined a grief therapy group at school that my dad doesn't know about, but he'd probably freak if he knew anyway. It doesn't help at all though. Everybody else who's in the group just talks over me and i don't get the chance to. I seriously feel alone with trying to deal with this, so I don't. I don't know how to talk to anyone about this, and that's weird for me. I'm good at telling people about my problems and just generally talking. But I can't seem to talk to anyone about this, they always think it's too awkward or change the subject or start talking about themselves...So I don't know. I don't know if I'll ever be able to get past it because I'm not doing anything to deal and I feel like i'm going to fucking explode. And I wasn't even close to my mom...at all.

And my great-grandma died a month after my mom. Literally to the day. I was really really close with her...I miss her so much. More than my mom, sometimes. A lot of the time actually. She was so incredible, and nobody seems to think her death affects me at all because she's not my mom. But she's just as important.

I've lost a few more people but i don't like going into details.

my dad died last year on boxing day...funny...i don't feel like i really care at all which kinda makes me feel like a bitch but i dunno...but what's even funnier is that i don't think abt it and stuff but when people come up to me and say "i'm sorry to hear about your dad..." i feel like i'm almost about to cry, so i guess i do care? in a way

I'm still not over Alex dying; its been over 3 years.

i lost my rabbit just over a month ago. minstrellian lemming was four, and i'm still not completely over it, doubt i ever will be.